Shy girls in our time are very rare, in principle, like shy guys. However, both those and others are still found. Many people think that starting a relationship with such people is very difficult, and sometimes almost impossible. This is fundamentally the wrong approach. Shy people just perceive others a little differently, but to win their trust means to win over themselves.
But first things first.
What to do if a girl is shy?
Shyness is not a bad trait for a girl. On the contrary, if you want a quiet and modest nature to be your chosen one, then a shy girl would be a good option. The main thing is do not push on her, do not rush, give her time to get used to you - and then the reward in the form of her attention will not keep you waiting long.
So the main points when dealing with a shy girl:
- Take her for who she is. Shy people are usually very quiet and modest. They are fixated on their inner world, and they are less concerned about what is happening outside. But remember that there are exceptions to all the rules, and as they say: "There are devils in a quiet pool." As a rule, this expression always works, and if a girl is quiet and modest in society, this does not mean at all that she will be like this in family life, rather, on the contrary, a surprise awaits you.
- Patience, patience and again patience. As a rule, shy girls are sooo reluctant to allow strangers into their surroundings. After all, to bring someone closer is to open his entire inner world in front of him, and this is oh, how difficult it is for this type of people.
- Make an appointment in quiet, cozy places where there will not be a large crowd of people, and where you can calmly talk and get to know each other better.
- Try to find out about her hobbies and interests and share them with her. Perhaps she loves long walks on a bicycle or is engaged in any kind of creativity. Show interest in her activities, and you will feel how constraint goes away. She will feel comfortable being at ease.
- Try not to immediately dump all your relatives and friends on it. Introduce everyone gradually. Indeed, for a shy person, only one thought about getting to know them can cause terrible fear and panic.
Remember!
To win the shy girl’s location is quite difficult, but possible. Build only trusting relationships with her, help her get to know you better and then she will reward you with love and care in full. Once you become the center of her small universe.
What to do if a guy is shy?
Of course, shyness is considered to be a purely feminine character trait. However, this is not the case. In today's world, more and more you can meet guys with this feature. What to do in this case is a complicated question. Let's figure it out in order. There are several different situations in which this can happen. The first and perhaps the most common - the guy is embarrassed to communicate with you. And secondly, the guy is embarrassed to show you to his friends and acquaintances.
Let's start with the second situation. Everything is fine and perfect for you. Relations develop as well as possible, but only as long as relatives and friends do not appear in them. In such situations, the guy begins to become fussy, nervous, agitated, tries to leave the uncomfortable environment more quickly, and may even pretend that you are not his girlfriend at all. The reason for this behavior is as follows. A young man is simply catastrophically dependent on the opinions of the people around him. And perhaps you are just a little different from the canons and standards that his company has adopted. There are several options for the development of the further situation:
- You are simply simply trying to build relationships with his friends and family behind him.
- You endure his behavior and expect that everything will work out on its own (consider this a hopeless situation).
- You simply raise the question with an edge. If he really considers himself a man, and a man is first of all the defender of his woman, and if he truly loves her, then he will not be allowed to ridicule her and say any unpleasant things about her.
And the first situation is when a guy is ashamed of himself. Moreover, in the first, and in the second case, the so-called inferiority complex is to blame for everything. Before you approach the girl you like, the guy evaluates himself and his strength. The shy guy immediately begins to feel fear that she will refuse him, or put him in some awkward position.
If you see that the young man you liked is just that, then there is only one option for the relationship - to take the first step yourself.
Come up and talk to him first. Of course in our country it is accepted that a man must take the first step, but wake up, in the yard is the 21st century and if you are the first, no disaster will happen. Such a guy will later carry you in his arms, and you will help him become more confident and cope with this unnecessary shyness. Everything is in your hands, go for it!
